What to Wear to a Funeral in 2021

Proper funeral etiquette is something you never really think about until you have to, and that includes everything from the service to the procession to the food. Knowing what to wear to a funeral can also be confusing, especially as trends and “rules” surrounding both fashion and mourning change so often. Here’s what you need to know about what to wear to a funeral in 2021. 

Why It Matters

Funerals are somber occasions. The purpose is to celebrate and remember a person who has passed on. It’s important to show respect in how you dress so as not to take attention away from the event.

Overall, the goal in choosing the right outfit to wear to a funeral is to be respectful and modest. Here are a few dos and don’ts for what to wear to a funeral.


  • Err on the side of professionalism. A funeral is not a fashion show; what you wear should be understated and modest.
  • Choose a dark color. You don’t have to wear black, especially if you are not a close family member of the person who has died. Dark gray and navy are the best non-black options.
  • Pay attention to culture. If the funeral is of a person from a different culture, make sure you know what other people will be wearing so you don’t stand out. For example, some cultures wear white to signal mourning.


  • Don’t wear bright colors. Again, you should try to blend in with the other guests and not draw attention to yourself. Avoid bright colors like yellow or red.
  • Don’t wear casual clothes. Leave the jeans, sneakers, and t-shirts at home. A funeral is a time to show respect. If there is a church service, wear your “Sunday Best.”
  • Don’t wear anything too revealing. A funeral is not the time to show off your body or your fashion sense. Instead, wear work- or church-appropriate attire.
  • Don’t wear large or attention-grabbing accessories. If you wear jewelry, opt for delicate, simple designs. Statement necklaces or large bangles are best left at home for a funeral service.

Funeral Outfit Ideas for Men and Women


•Suit and tie

•Slacks and button-up shirt

•Shirt and tie with sweater and slacks


•A pantsuit with low heels

•Midi-skirt with blouse and flats

•Slim trousers with a sweater

Remember, whatever outfit you choose, stick to black, gray, and dark blue.

Planning a funeral is no easy task, so let the professionals help. Hamel-Lydon can assist you in planning funeral services near Boston and take away some of the burdens during this emotional time. Contact us today to inquire how we can help you.

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